How is life treating you, these days? How is your marriage? It is bringing out the worst or best in you? Maybe it is time for a little marriage tune-up.
I certainly do not claim to know everything about the subject. I have, however, been married a good many years and have learned quite a bit, mostly through the ups and downs of it all. I am thankful for my husband, but I can assure you \ it has not all been a bed of roses. We do have a much stronger marriage now than we used to. The two most difficult tasks we are given in life are keeping a marriage together and raising children, neither of which do we have instructions for. Mind you the Bible does have some great advice for marriage, but we don't always pay heed to it.
When we are young and enter into marriage, we tend to forget we are two vastly different people from different backgrounds. We also bring with us ideas and attitudes that aren't always as mature as they should be. Usually selfishness raises its ugly head and that's where problems begin.
We all like to think we should have our way and when we can't, tension and friction build up. Some of us take longer than others to learn this lesson, but we must let go of selfishness if we are to have a happy marriage. I certainly haven't arrived yet in spite of the years, but hopefully am getting better. When was the last time we put our wishes aside to do what our husband or partner wanted to do?
Maybe you are saying, "You don't know my spouse like I do and I'm always giving in to what he or she wants."
How are your communication skills? Maybe you just need to sit down together, switch off the TV, face each other, talk and listen to what the other person is saying. Maybe if you listen carefully, you may hear something they aren't saying. You can usually sense this and watch for clues in body language. Often we aren't aware of just how much we are hurting each other by our attitudes and voice tones. Also by not really listening to what is being said. It is so easy to make your spouse feel they aren't important, because we don't respect them as we should. Our children need to see our respect and love for one another, if they don't it will affect them emotionally. They also need to see us in agreement when disciplining them.
Unfortunately, we all make mistakes but it is never too late to learn and to put things right.
Have a great week. God bless.
