It is time to quit apologizing. We, as Canadians, are mocked for our over apologetic nature, teased for saying "sorry" when someone bumps into us. As women, we are no better. We are always sorry when we can't live up to expectations or when our health keeps us from giving all we want to our communities.
I know women of all ages in our tiny villages and our larger centres who are constantly apologizing for the actions of their thyroid glands, hormones, digestive systems or other body parts they cannot control. There are many serious health conditions stopping or slowing down strong and generous women from acting in the way they would like. I don't want to hear the "I'm sorry" or pangs of guilt for the fatigue and sadness. They are not your fault.
I have many passionate friends, friends who are leaders in their communities and great generous souls who feel bad when they cannot meet the needs of the many at a time when they are unable to take care of their own needs because they are too tired or sore or sad.
The body is a wonderful mechanism that isn't fully understood by any human. I am more aware everyday of women of every age who have problems they have accepted as norms that impact their energy while they still must go on being the strength for their families and community groups.
I am not saying men are not also suffering, but in a region where men work long and varied shifts, I spend more time in the presence of women and have more opportunities to hear about their struggles. I see the stress of disappointing others adding to the ailments and wish people would allow themselves to be sick and give themselves an opportunity to rest and recover.
It isn't easy to let go of responsibility in small towns where there is a limited pool of time and talent and many of the most generous are over extended. I've seen those who are always taking care of others and the community and some don't seem to be taking care of themselves.
Those who are examples of self care seem to be more effective in their roles balancing their own care without losing their spirit of generosity. I don't want to hear "I'm sorry" I'd rather hear "I'm taking care of myself."
